If a seer had correctly foretold our future as little as 3 years ago, I would have laughed out loud at the inconceivability of it all … us living a 7×24 D/s life, how we are enjoying our sexuality and kink more than ever before, writing a blog and meeting like minded people around the globe and last but not least, our bare all communications … including the ability to openly discuss ‘Public Play’ with Frank. When I say public play I am talking about something as simple as attending a BDSM club or dungeon type facility or event … or even just a ‘munch’ if we could find one nearby. In opening the discussion I had/have no expectation that we might actually do something ‘public’ ourselves. However, just to have him not entirely shut the idea down was an eye opener for me … and soon I was off online looking to see if there was anything near enough to be a possibility.
In some ways I guess I shouldn’t be surprised about his willingness to discuss it. When we lived in the city, he asked me several times to go with him to the annual Taboo Naughty But Nice event (it was the closest thing the city had to a large erotic convention) – but I never would. I worked as a senior manager in a large corporation and was always afraid I’d run into someone from work – uhh yeah no, wasn’t going there. He finally went once on his own … and came home with kinky lingerie … of course he did :>) … (for those not familiar with my previous blog, Frank has a lingerie fetish – that being lingerie on me :>))
On the other hand Frank is a deeply private person – I’m sure readers here know more about him than our closest family and friends and the fact he allows me such full disclosure on our life still amazes me :>). I don’t think he’s ever discussed sex or his sex life with anyone other than me. In our discussions, Frank also said something I thought was interesting … he’s never been a ‘guys guy’ – his best friends in school were women, my women friends were always comfortable confiding in him, and since his little brother (his closest male friend) died nearly 20 years ago, his only men friends have been the male halves of our ‘couple friends’ – some he’s close to but not that close. When I asked him if he would be able to talk about kink and sex with anyone in a munch or club scenario, his response didn’t surprise me … “if it was a woman” … ha! :>)
I did find a small club not too far away, although given where we live, it would require an overnight in another city. They also have regular munches. We also live only a day’s drive and an overnight stay away from the big city where we used to live, where there is a much larger kink community and therefore several selections for clubs and events. However, I haven’t taken it too much further than the initial investigation stage as I have a fear that the reality of the dungeon/club type setting and atmosphere might be so far from the idealistic fantasy version it would be a disappointment. However, just to be able to connect with a like minded community and have person to person discussions in a munch … that I could be up for.
I will confess I do have a secret fantasy about being played with publicly, which Frank knows about in general terms although I’ve not been able to share much with him about the details .. yet :>) However, given my age related body image issues, I’m fairly sure us actually playing publicly will most likely stay a fantasy and that’s okay … sometimes it’s good to have a last frontier out there waiting to be crossed.
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